I have felt sexual my entire life. Before I started masturbating, I would fantasize about a group of men touching my cunt, my breasts, my mouth and my anus. I was 16 when I lost my virginity but I wish I'd lost it earlier.
I'm a mistress, and rather than condemn me, you might want to thank me for saving your marriage. According to Sexual Health Australia, 70 per cent of all marriages experience an affair. Most estimates indicate that 45 per cent of women and 60 per cent of men are willing to report that an affair has happened sometime throughout their marriage.
Very occasionally, one discovers a writer whose work they instantaneously connect with. This happened to me, when I first read the poems of prolific Canadian talent -- Ryan Quinn Flanagan. Flanagan is an artist that doesn't like to speak about himself, which is refreshing in an era of raging narcissism and shameless self-promotion.
Do you know how many marriages I've saved in the last decade with my mouth, pussy and anus?
I believe 'empowerment' can only be self-determined. What I find empowering, you may not. And vice-versa. There seems to be much debate online on whether nudity, porn and promiscuity is empowering or degrading to women. Again, I believe only the individual can be the judge of that.
JANUARY 2017 - HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Dear Blokes, I am writing this letter to apologize for all the man-hating you receive on a daily basis. I honestly have no idea how you cope as well as you do. In recent years on social media, there's been a never-ending stream of vitriolic articles and commentary targeting you.
Vanessa de Largie's articles in Maxim Magazine.
I'm yet to come across any man who doesn't appreciate a video of a woman masturbating and coming. Not only is it fun to send him. It's fun to film. Get creative! I use the film-camera on my phone. It does the job. (cough). 1. Film yourself masturbating.
The men who get away with sexual assault. The men who walk around this world blemish-free amidst rape or sexual abuse accusations. The men with famous names like Roman Polanski or Bill Cosby who are rewarded with more opportunities to sexually assault women.
This post is hosted on the Huffington Post's Contributor platform. Contributors control their own work and post freely to our site. If you need to flag this entry as abusive, send us an email. On December 23, Bradley Robert Edwards was charged with the murders of Jane Rimmer and Ciara Glennon in the infamous Claremont Serial Killer case.
My first article has been published in Thought Catalog. How exciting! xx
I'm a woman that loves to fuck. And I make zero apologies. I'm keen to fuck anywhere, any place, and anytime. Just say the word! In my world, there is nothing better than having a dick deep inside of me. It makes me feel safe. It makes me feel free.
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Yes. Yes. YES. Oh, Lordy. Yesss! Have you heard the news? Priceline Pharmacy now sells a range of vibrators called Smile Makers which are being advertised as "personal massagers". Finally, Australian women can purchase sex toys along with their toiletries without having to skulk through seedy adult shops.
Is there anything more stunning than an erect cock? A glistening cunt runs a close draw, I guess! I've written a ton of articles about my love of pussy but right now I just want to focus on dick. One only has to look at architecture and art history to witness phallocentricity.
Nessa & Bella
I wake up this morning to discover the producer of several of the films I starred in (and my old-time friend), Belinda Lim has died -- so so young.
My heart goes out to her wonderful man, Scott at this very sad time. Who has endured and lived through so much.
Bella and I had some great laughs during our friendship. In time, I will write an article about this wonderful human being who was so generous.
But for now, I would like to offer my love and condolences to Scott and everybody who had the chance to be affected by Bella's light.
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On my 21st birthday I officially declared to my parents that I would never get married or have children. I'm now 39 and I've defiantly stuck to my guns. Amongst my friends, I feel like the adolescent who's never grown up. At 39, my freedoms are much the same as they were 20 years ago.
Being fucked by a group of men is what I call -- true beauty. What an honour it is to gift orgasms to a beautiful feast of males. What an honour it is to receive orgasms via a group dynamic. Women who partake in group-sex with fare much better, in my experience.
I often ponder how different my life would have been if my mother hadn't passed away when I was a young girl. She had battled with a terminal illness for as far back as I can remember, finally succumbing to it when I was eight years old. I remember the day so clearly.
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Vanessa de Largie's Very Public Flogging For Wanting Kim Kardashian To Die... Which Wasn't Even True To Begin With - New Matilda
Kim Kardashian's name doesn't make the pages of New Matilda very often. This appearance is even less edifying than the first. Vanessa de Largie takes up the story. On October 11, News Corp's RendezView published a column I wrote about Kim Kardashian West.
Often I find myself in tears, like this morning. Tears of frustration. Tears of defeat. Black eyeliner running down my cheeks making me look like a sooty mess. I hug my pillow in my room and scream into it for release. One is entitled to the freedom of sexual expression -- without being censored, controlled.
Ripping into Kim Kardashian and Kate Fischer - plain old bullying or 'public interest'? | Amanda Meade
The Australian model and actress formerly known as Kate Fischer retired from public life a decade ago and moved to the US, where she embraced Orthodox Judaism and changed her name to T'Ziporah Malka.
Is it possible to call yourself a feminist and in the same breath, dismiss another woman's violent ordeal? According to Australian newspaper The Daily Telegraph , it's possible and it's gold. The paper ran columnist Vanessa de Largie's SEO-friendly piece "I wanted Kim Kardashian to die" Monday and we dare say, Kim Kardashian would have some strong words to say about it.
A self-proclaimed feminist published an article earlier this week in which she laid out the reasons she had wished for Kim Kardashian's death during the star's recent robbery incident. Comedian Rebecca Shaw takes a closer look at the article, and points out all the ways it is not exactly super feminist to wish for another woman's death.
As Kim Kardashian continues to recover from her Paris robbery, one columnist has offered a stunning take on why it's wrong to support, defend, and empathize with the reality star. On Tuesday, The Daily Telegraph's Rendez View section published an op-ed by self-described "feminist" writer, author, actress, and sex-columnist Vanessa de Largie, who titled her piece, " I wanted Kim Kardashian to die."
Australian author and actress Vanessa de Largie penned a column Tuesday admitting she had a fleeting hope that Kim Kardashian West had been murdered by the Paris men who robbed her of $10 million worth of jewelry earlier this month.
I pen articles and books advocating to stop violence against women. Yet, I have a confession to make. When I heard the news that Kim Kardashian West had been gagged and robbed at gunpoint in her private Paris apartment last week, my first thought was: Why couldn't they have killed her?
Vanessa de Largie uses her writing voice to "speak" her mind. Luckily for us, what's on Vanessa de Largie's mind is sex. Not wearing a bra. Double penetration. Threesomes. Double-blowjobs. Swallowing during oral sex. (Though to be clear, I guess I should've said, "swallowing at the climax of oral sex".)
My favorite thing about threesomes is the double blowjob. There's something erotic about sharing a dick with another woman. I get incredibly wet watching her work on the same penis as me - it's like collaborative art. My first experience of a double blowjob was memorable.
Was thrilled to have my DP article mentioned by Canadian Sex Educator Jon Pressick in his recent column on Kinkly! Read entire article below.
I love the idea that the phrase
So excited to have a column about my beautiful parents on SBS!
I'm sick of people using the term 'selfish' for parents who choose to have a child late in life. I am the child of older parents. My father was 71 at my eighteenth birthday party and my mother was 61.
Great Interview With Ben John Smith from Horror Sleaze Trash - Huff Post!
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This post is hosted on the Huffington Post's Contributor platform. Contributors control their own work and post freely to our site. If you need to flag this entry as abusive, send us an email. I'm a libertine. My entire life is built around sexual pleasure. When I'm not doing the above.
Every month for over a decade, I've been having my va-va massacred by sadists in a bid to stay relevant in our bald-vagina-times. The Brazilian Wax is a fad that was popularised by the porn industry. It's painful, it's expensive and it makes my lady-bits look like a prepubescent girl.
It's a privilege to have a feature article on Cara Sutra
The first article I read when I visited Cara Sutra, was Cara's brave offering about her multiple rapes and the importance of rape fantasy and rapeplay in her sex-life. I'm not going to lie, as a rape survivor myself - I found the article very confronting and it took me days to process what I had just read.
Angry sex is often referred to as 'make-up sex.' It's lustful, it's primal, and it's forceful. It usually takes place after a heated argument or a tiff. It's when anger is siphoned through a good, hard fuck.In a climate of...
Vanessa de Largie is an Australian sex writer and columnist whose work focuses on feminism, fierce female sexuality and women's issues Luna Matatas will tell us about her sex education work, with a particular focus on CBT (Cock and Ball Torture) Jerry Barnett will delve into the controversial state of porn in the UK by telling us about his book Porn Panic!
This week's featured sex blogger is Vanessa de Largie - thanks for stepping into the spotlight, Vanessa! As well as writing an intriguing and revealing sex blog, Vanessa is a sex writer for some big name publications. Enjoy finding out more about Vanessa in her spotlight feature below then click through to discover her sex blog and social media.
This post is hosted on the Huffington Post's Contributor platform. Contributors control their own work and post freely to our site. If you need to flag this entry as abusive, send us an email. This article is part of a series by Australian sex-columnist Vanessa de Largie.
ACMI in association with The University of Melbourne and The British Council present Shakespeare on Film from Thursday 14th of July to Tuesday 26th of July 2016. This week, Milk Bar Magazine had the pleasure of sitting down with Dr David McInnis, Lecturer in Shakespeare Studies at The University of Melbourne.
This article is part of a series published on The Huff Post & The Victress by Australian sex-columnist Vanessa de Largie. *** I hope you enjoy The Handjob Hussy. There are no articles about handjobs on the internet. So I thought it was time that a woman wrote one.
Two decades after the Spice Girls burst on to the world-stage with Wannabe, the chart-topping single has now been remade by The Global Goals to advocate for gender equality and to end violence against women. The video, which features artists from around the world, including British girl-group M.O and Bollywood starlet Jacqueline Fernandez claims to emphasise the inequality that women of today face.
When I'm not on my knees. I'm on all fours. Doggie-style is my favorite sexual position. It's the one I derive the most pleasure from..
Many would feel shame identifying with the traits of a whore but I feel incredibly proud. I'm whorish down to my bones and I've felt this since I was a young teenage girl. It's not just a physicality -- it's a consistent mental, spiritual and emotional state.
We've known for a while now that clean-cut Richie Strahan is Australia's newest Bachelor, and it has just been announced that TV news anchor Georgia Love will be our newest Bachelorette. Once again women around the country will be drip-fed the romance-lie via soft lighting, unauthentic dates and red roses.
Vanessa de Largie's book will leave you torn. It's a diarised account of the domestic violence she suffered from 2001-03. On the one hand you wish this book didn't exist (and that de Largie didn't have to live through such pain, horror and terror) but on the other hand it's good to know that others will have somewhere to turn to if they or someone they know is caught as a victim.
Vanessa de Largie's Penthouse Columns
My interview with New York Jazz-Star Jose James has been published in Milk Bar Magazine!
In celebration of jazz-songstress Billie Holiday's centennial, José James returned to The Melbourne International Jazz Festival this week with songs from his Blue Note release Yesterday I Had The Blues, his tribute to Lady Day, who he refers to as his 'musical mother'. I had the privilege of interviewing James and experiencing his incredible show.
My interview with Aussie Film Makers Sarah Jayne & Ivan Malekin has been published on The Huffington Post
Daughter is a short film by Australian filmmakers -- Sarah Jayne and Ivan Malekin. The film explores violence against women, societal stigmas and victim blaming. The screenplay was written by Sarah Jayne to increase awareness of gender-based violence and it's devastating effects on the community.
Makes me sad to announce that my Seattle publisher has closed it's doors after 7 years in business and I have received my rights back for my book Don't Hit Me! (paperback and ebook). My book may be temporarily unavailable for a few days whilst some small red-tape issues are sorted. I apologise for any inconvenience!
Vanessa's newest article about 'Shame' published on The Huff 25/5
This article is about the many faces of shame. Shh. Don't tell anyone! I'm a freelance sex-columnist. I pay my rent each month by writing articles about my love of sucking dick. Sex-writing has changed my life. It's allowed me to step out of the shadows and express who I really am.
It's 2016 and the world is becoming more politically correct. You can't take a breath without being accused of being sexist, racist, misogynist, ageist, royalist, fascist or chauvinist. The world takes itself seriously and whatever you do, you'll manage to offend someone. I've learnt to live with this reality.
Vaginas depicted in the art world don't fare any better. What's worse is that much of the disapproval comes from women. Go to any comments section, on any article covering vaginal art, and you'll find a stream of women making statements such as "That's disgusting!"Read more...
Vanessa de Largie makes no apologies. The former actress and feminist is now a successful author and sex blogger for The Huffington Post. Her writing is fierce, funny and honest with things like "The Blowjob Artist", "The Squirting Princess" and "The Hum-Balls-Harlot" just some of her most recent posts.
April 6 -- Vanessa's first column has been published in News Corp's RendezView.
Honoured to get a Five-Star Review from Reader's Favorite -- read review here.
There's been some great stuff happening! Happy March! :-)
Magical March 2016
Considering my book 'Don't Hit Me!' has been published for just under two years, it gives me a thrill that it still manages to get in the Amazon Bestseller List. As of Jan 24th --- it sits at #4 !
I've had a stack of articles published on The Huffington Post this January. You can check them out here.
24/12 Dear Apparent Feminists syndicated on Huff Post
23/12 Dear Apparent Feminists published in Australia Times
19/12 Mrs. Somebody Else published on Huff Post
12/12 My Reproductive Organs Need A Voice published on Huff Post
8/12 My Genitals Are on Fire published on Huff Post
18/11 4 Things That I Learnt When My Mother, Father & Brother Died in My Twenties published on Rebelle Society
12/11 The Squirting Princess published on Huff Post
5 of my prose-poetry pieces have been accepted for Van Rijn's second 'Erotic Book Of Hours'. It has been so amazing to collaborate with Jan on this. I am honored. Check out van Rijn's work in Juxtapoz Magazine.
Excited that my Huffington Post article and myself got some coverage on US Site 'All That Spanking'
Vanessa's thrilled to announce that her film-essay 'The Empire of The Ants' has been accepted for a Belgium publication. The book will be released later this year & is being edited by Belgium Screenwriter/Author Vanessa Morgan.
We Read That Too have reviewed Vanessa's book 'Don't Hit Me!'
On the 19th of September, Sizzler 77 (feature film) premieres at The Melbourne Underground Film Festival in Brunswick. Vanessa has a supporting role in the film, playing a 70's whore called Wanda. The film got a great write-up in Beat Magazine this week. See here.
14th - Vanessa & her book Don't Hit Me! are featured on 'Highlighted Author' today. #exciting
29.08.15 My interview with artist & craftivist Casey Jenkins has just been published on The Huffington Post.
How To Break The Internet With a Vagina & a Ball of Wool
28.08.15 Book Review of 'Don't Hit Me!' at Bound For Escape
26.08.15 10 Things You Didn't Know About Don't Hit Me! on Lori's Reading Corner
19th August: Check out Vanessa's Guest Post on The Story Behind The Book -- talking about her book.
18th August: Vanessa did an interview at Beyond The Books
Vanessa's most recent article on The Huffington Post has just been published Nick Kyrgios is a Slut-Shamer
Read the Cliche Interview online
11th August: Vanessa's Interview with The Writers Life eMagazine
10th August: Have a read of Vanessa's guest post 'Don't Be A Statistic' on Mythical Books
8th August: Vanessa was interviewed by BookReader Mag
6th August: Vanessa was given the verified 'blue tick' badge on Facebook It has now been confirmed that she is Vanessa de Largie. :)
5th August: Don't Hit Me! gets reviewed at Fictional Real World
4th of August: Vanessa's Huff article -- 'My Vagina Runs My Life' has just been syndicated on Your Tango.
4th of August: Read Vanessa's author interview at As The Page Turns
3rd of August: Read Vanessa's most recent article on The Huffington Post Don't Tell Me That as a Rape Survivor I Can't Enjoy Sex
3rd of August: Don't Hit Me! is featured at Beyond The Books Have a peek!
Vanessa's Book Tour Schedule can be viewed by clicking here
Vanessa's third article for the Huffington Post has just been published Miss Childless-by-Choice
Vanessa's book Don't Hit Me was reviewed in the arts section of The Mornington Peninsula News.
Vanessa's second article for The Huffington Post has just been published -- I Touch Myself.
Vanessa was recently interviewed by Tigress Magazine about her book Don't Hit Me.
Wowee - Vanessa's book 'Don't Hit Me!' received a write-up/review in The Sydney Arts Guide. Exciting!
This week Vanessa appears in EZRA Magazine! There's an in-depth two-page feature interview and photo-spread.
30.06.15 - What a milestone. Vanessa is now a writer and blogger for The Huffington Post in New York. You can read her first article here, titled My Vagina Runs My Life Vanessa's Huffington Post Biog and archived articles can be read here.
Yesterday (24/6/15) Vanessa was interviewed by Jennifer who runs PrettyHot.com You can read the interview by clicking here.
Exciting! Vanessa's article Living Your Dream Takes Courage has just been published by Rebelle Society. #woot
A month ago, Vanessa sent her paperback 'Don't Hit Me!' to popular Australian book blogger - Amy Brownlee who runs Lost In A Good Book. Amy has read and reviewed Vanessa's paperback. Her review went live yesterday. Read here. Thanks Amy.
Vanessa has been cast in the role of NETTY in European Horror Film 'Laundry Man' being directed by Johan Vandewoestijne and being distributed by SGL Entertainment. Johan was the executive producer of infamous cult classic horror film Rabid Grannies.
My book 'Don't Hit Me!' made it into the St Kilda Press today! woot!
Yesterday Vanessa was interviewed by American author Jessica Kong on her site Se-anan Empire about her book Don't Hit Me. Read interview here.
On the 13th of June at the Sandpit in St Kilda, Vanessa will be performing some spoken word at this amazing event
Her book Don't Hit Me! is also a prize in the DAUGHTER pozible campaign. #stopviolenceagainstwomen
Honoured to be a guest blogger on Laura Tien's blog today, where I got to promote my book 'Don't Hit Me! and write about what I am passionate about - fighting domestic violence. Read my guest post 'How Do Women Protect Themselves From Men?' by clicking here
Vanessa has been confirmed as one of the writers on Van Rijn's next erotic 'Book Of Hours' Squeal!
It's fairly significant (not to mention EXCITING) when your paperback begins to be sold by your favourite bookshop. My paperback can be purchased at Readings. Buy here.
My paperback features in The Weekly Roundup - How exciting!
Loved working with director Tim Spanos!
Moving up in the world :) My book 'Don't Hit Me!' got a five-star review in the San Francisco Book Review. AMAZING. Read review here
Vanessa features in the April Issue of Star Central Magazine - have a read of interview and view photo spread by clicking here
Vanessa is also on the HOT list and is on the banner of the online magazine for the whole of April, so cool, check it out here
I'm very lucky to have my cover designer from Booktrope - Lizzie (Russell) Martin design my social media banner for Twitter & Facebook. Here's a peek, I'm so pleased. Thanks Lizzie!
Vanessa was recently interviewed by Sydney journalist & poet Marjorie Lewis-Jones about her book Don't Hit Me! What an honour! Here's the link:
de Largie on Domestic Violence Packs a Disturbing Punch
On the 19th of March, Vanessa's book Don't Hit Me! launched as a PAPERBACK. woot woot woot.
Exciting! On March 10th an article appeared in The Weekly Review Magazine about Vanessa and her book 'Don't Hit Me!' You can read article here
Vanessa had a great time in March working with Film director Timothy Spanos and Aussie actors - Alan King (Fat Tony & Co, Rush, Satisfaction) & actor Terry Yeboah (10 Terrorists, Rush, The Lion King) on feature film Sizzler 77. The film will re released later in 2015.
What a way to end February! I have just been CROWNED 'Most Promising Australian Actress' by StarCentral Magazine. Woohoo! Further info shortly!
Vanessa recently was interviewed by Michigan Author February Grace about acting and other such things. Thx for having me February! You can read interview here.
Wheee! Just found out I am a Finalist in the Most Promising Actress of The Month (Feb 2015) Competition for StarCentral Magazine. You can vote for me here
Comfy Chair gave 'Don't Hit Me!' 4 out of 5 stars. Thrilled to bits. You can read review here.
This week I interviewed ex Australian Soldier & founder of DVINA - Milli Anne. Read the interview here.
An article that I wrote was published in Milk Bar Magazine today. Click on link to read The Anti-Valentine's Show
My first article for the year has been published by Topic Media. Finding The Perfect Diary for 2015
Check out my NEW book trailer for Tantric Afternoons! Meow!
Absolutely THRILLED to announce that my book 'Don't Hit Me!' has received an 'Honourable Mention' at the prestigious London Book Festival for 2014. Have just found out this wonderful news, what a great way to end 2014 on the day before New Years Eve!. May you all have a very happy 2015!
On the 23rd of December 2014, an article appeared in the Herald Sun about the National Trust Shoot, in which I played an archery woman. And I was cut out of the photo in newspaper. Damn it. :( Click here to read Herald Sun article. Behind the scenes shot below. More to be uploaded to gallery at later stage.
Marc Wasiac (behind award-winning works such as Bordello, Funeral and Wedding) Shooting commences at Rippon Lea on the 15th of December.
Vanessa's most recent article 'Juliana's Cafe' has just been published for Topic Media. Read here
Vanessa's most recent article 'The Joe Manifesto' has just been published in Milk Bar Magazine. Read here
Vanessa has been cast as the female lead in a video being made for Nutrition Australia -being directed by AFI nominated & AACTA award-winning film director
Dee McLachlan.(The Jammed) Shooting commences on the 3rd of December
Click here and read 4STAR review on Lindsay & Jane's Views and Reviews blog in UK of my book Don't Hit Me!
On Thursday the 30th of October, Vanessa's poetry book Lascivious was featured on Phoenix FM, with host - Melbourne Poet James WF Roberts. James read a number of poems from Lascivious, live on air and will soon review Vanessa's collection. Check out James's blog, by clicking here. Thanks so much to James for reviewing my work!!!
My article about a David Bowie screening has just been published in Milk Bar Magazine Read here
Vanessa caught the fantastic French Cabaret 'LIVE AND RESIST' at Howlers in Brunswick (part of The Melbourne Fringe Festival) she loved it so much, she wrote an article about it for Topic Media. The article won a bronze award. Click here to read.
SEPTEMBER 2014 - SPRING HAS SPRUNG!
Vanessa's article about Electric Shorts has been published in Milk Bar Magazine. Click here to read article in Milk Bar Mag. Click here to view on Horror, Sleaze Trash.
Vanessa has been cast in the lead role of amazing short film Hide and Seek. The film will be shot in Emerald in early September.
It is being produced by Christos Katsaros. Behind the scene shots can now be viewed in the gallery.
4 of Vanessa's poems have been selected for a 2015 poetry anthology by Black Rune Press. It will be available to purchase in bookshops in Melbourne, in 2015.
Vanessa has just covered Fashion On Film at ACMI. The article has been published in Milk Bar Magazine. Read here
Vanessa's book 'Don't Hit Me!' has just won the BRONZE award at the 2014 Global Ebook Awards in Santa Barbara. She's very excited indeed! Check out photo in the gallery.
Vanessa has been cast in an SBS TV commerical shooting on the 16th of August. Directed by Christos Katsaros. EXCITING!
Vanessa has joined Milk Bar Magazine. Her first article has just been published. Click here to read.
Have a read of Vanessa's most recent article for Topic Media, now published on Weekend Notes. Click here to view.
Vanessa was recently interviewed by The Weekly Review Magazine about her best selling book. Click here to read article.
Vanessa's book Don't Hit Me! has been reviewed by the reputable Midwest Book Review in America. Midwest receives on average of 2000 submissions a month, selecting only 600 to review. Senior reviewer & editor Diane Donovan gave the book 5 stars. Click here to read the review on Donovan's Bookshelf or click here to read the review in the July edition of MBR.
Vanessa has been cast in Tim Spanos's feature film Sizzler 77. Filming resumes in September.
Thrilled to announce that Don't Hit Me! has been nominated for the 2014 Global eBook Awards in the non fiction/women's studies category. Woohoo!