I am off to Vietnam in June on a 4-week adventure.
1. Before I turned 40 I travelled to England, Ireland, Greece, Belgium, France, The Netherlands, Japan, China, Thailand, Vietnam, New Zealand, America and Singapore. 2. Before I turned 40 I skydived with my nephew Steven and jumped out of a plane at 14, 000 feet.
Vanessa de Largie divides her time between the UK and Australia. She is a journalist, sex-columnist, blogger and author.
IT'S National Carers Week. A week that is dedicated to recognising the outstanding contribution unpaid carer's make to our nation. A week that is personally important to me. Being a carer for my mum was the most rewarding experience of my life. Being a carer is about making mistakes.
I am a worthy human being with outstanding qualities
A column by Vanessa De Largie asserting her regained power after rape was attacked by the usual suspects. On April 6, my article Every Orgasm I Have is a Show of Defiance to my Rapist was published on News Corp's opinion site RendezView. My article was written with the very best intentions.
I'm an adult-child. To date, growing up is the WORST thing that has ever happened to me.
In November 2015, Rose McGowan famously shaved off her luscious locks. In an excerpt from her upcoming memoir, Brave , published by VICE,McGowan revealed that she shaved her head because she no longer wanted to look like a "fantasy f*ck toy." McGowan revealed that after removing her hair, everyone would ask her if she had broken up with someone.
All my life I've wanted to escape. I hate being me. That's why I love writing and acting. That's why I love fucking man after man. That's why I love drinking copious amounts of red wine. Through sex, creativity and alcohol. I lose myself. For a few short moments, I find respite from reality.
Don't listen to anyone who tries to tell you that Santa isn't real. Sadly, there are individuals in this world (both BIG and small) who derive satisfaction from spoiling other people's joy. Children learn the 'art of disbelief' from adults. And adults stop believing in magic when they disconnect from their inner child and put their grownup mask on.
My dear friend, Max Fairchild passed away on the 12th of October 2017. Max was known for his roles in Mad Max 1 & 2, Howling lll, Death Of A Soldier and TV series -- Killing Time.
Do you know how many marriages I've saved in the last decade with my mouth, pussy and anus? The government should give me a financial bonus for my contribution to matrimonial bliss. I'm keeping marriages together all-over-the-shop and all I get in return is a drained cock.
THE hospice let my mother die while I sat and watched. I'd been called in for an appointment with the hospice staff where I was cornered in an office and bullied into agreeing that 'a care pathway' was the best option for my Mum.
Two decades after the Spice Girls burst on to the world-stage with Wannabe, the chart-topping single has now been remade by The Global Goals to advocate for gender equality and to end violence against women. The video, which features artists from around the world, including British girl-group M.O and Bollywood starlet Jacqueline Fernandez claims to emphasise the inequality that women of today face.
I'M suffering from a terminal illness called age. But unlike Katie Price - who claims she is "preventing ageing" while showing off her latest facelift - I'm a realist. According to societal standards, I should be frozen by "Botox" or locked up in an aged care facility.
I'm not married. If insanity sets in and I do marry, there is no way in hell (in heaven either) that I will be changing my surname. My surname is part of who I am, it's the name of the people who created me and it's the name I will be buried with.
Every month for over a decade, I've been having my va-va massacred by sadists in a bid to stay relevant in our bald-vagina-times. The Brazilian Wax is a fad that was popularized by the porn industry. It's painful, it's expensive and it makes my lady-bits look like a prepubescent girl.
On December 23, Bradley Robert Edwards was charged with the murders of Jane Rimmer and Ciara Glennon in the infamous Claremont Serial Killer case. The investigation which has been ongoing for two decades finally concluded and no-one could be more relieved than me. I'm a Perth girl, born and bred.
It's time to speak up. It's time to speak out. It's time to scream unapologetically. I will no longer remain silent. I have a debilitating disease. I have Endometriosis. 1 in 10 women suffer from this condition yet nobody wants to talk about it.
I've never understood the nine to fivers. They rise early. Skull coffee. And turn up to jobs that they hate. They do this day in and day out. Totally unaware that their life is passing them by....
Admittedly, I'd never heard of Pakistan's social media starlet Qandeel Baloch until she was killed by her brother for dishonoring her family. Nor can I recite the names of the 1100 Pakistani women who reportedly lost their lives in 2015 for their dishonor.
In celebration of jazz-songstress Billie Holiday's centennial, José James returned to The Melbourne International Jazz Festival this week. I had the privilege of interviewing James and experiencing his incredible show.
Crime isn't always about the blokes! Sometimes it's about fearless, kick-arse, Colombian-born murderesses. Griselda Blanco was a force to be reckoned with. It's estimated that she is responsible for approximately 200 murders whilst trafficking drugs from Colombia to Miami, New York and California. Ms. Blanco was known as The Black Widow and The Cocaine Godmother.
On February 28, British costume designer Jenny Beavan won her second Oscar at the 88th Academy Awards Ceremony for her work on Mad Max: Fury Road. Unfortunately, there was more attention given to what she wore, than the Oscar achievement itself as is often the case with women.
Roxanne White is an Australian trans woman residing in Newtown, Sydney. I discovered White on social media in 2016, through her unapologetic views about politics and transgender issues. Recently, I got the opportunity to interview White about being transgender and her journey thus far.
I'm more afraid of having a baby than I am of sitting through a horror flick. On my 21st birthday I officially declared to my parents that I would never get married or have children. I'm now 39 and I've defiantly stuck to my guns.
Numerous surveys confirm that women wear bras for aesthetics rather than functionality. And recent figures show that between 70 and 80 per cent of women wear the wrong sized bra, causing a multitude of issues such as back pain, pinched nerves, heartburn and digestive issues.
Their negativity wasn't about me, it was about them. A well-adjusted person who is doing what they love never feels threatened. They celebrate other people's success and push them to soar higher. Those who can't be happy for you, feel threatened.
Content warning: this article discusses rape, trauma, and ways of healing. n April, I had the immense privilege of performing my one-woman-show Every Orgasm I Have Is A Show Of Defiance To My Rapist in the West End of London. I've also written a column of the same name detailing how I sexually healed from rape.
I didn't want to die.
This article is about the many faces of shame.
My name is Miss Childless-by-Choice. People assumedly call me -- Miss Child-Hater, Miss Sterile, Miss Barren, Miss Infertility and Miss Anonymous. I was never one of those girls, the ones who gush in yearning for a child. The ones who believe marriage and motherhood will somehow complete them.
I'm sick of people using the term 'selfish' for parents who choose to have a child late in life. I am the child of older parents. My father was 71 at my eighteenth birthday party and my mother was 61.
Philip Hunt is a domestic violence advocate, whose work primarily focuses on men.
Everyone has their own definition of what freedom is. What I call freedom, you may call slavery.
Opinion: Vanessa de Largie
Daughter is a short film by Australian filmmakers -- Sarah Jayne and Ivan Malekin. The film explores violence against women, societal stigmas and victim blaming. The screenplay was written by Sarah Jayne to increase awareness of gender-based violence and it's devastating effects on the community.
Gilmore's entire op-ed aims to pull apart the Men's Rights Activists "for acting against women rather than 'for' men". Which is a case of "the pot calling the kettle black" because Gilmore's squad are just as culpable of applying an identical demonising ideology, but with the genders reversed.
Very occasionally, one discovers a writer whose work they instantaneously connect with. This happened to me, when I first read the poems of prolific Canadian talent -- Ryan Quinn Flanagan. Flanagan is an artist that doesn't like to speak about himself, which is refreshing in an era of raging narcissism and shameless self-promotion.
It's these three things that drew me to controversial performance-artist and craftivist, Casey Jenkins. You see, Casey knits with her vagina. Say what? You heard correctly, she knits with her vagina. In the space of a fortnight, over 3.5 million people watched a YouTube clip titled Vaginal Knitting, shot by SBS2.
Ben John Smith is a British born writer, artist and performer currently based in Australia. He's also the editor-in-chief of popular zine Horror Sleaze Trash. I first discovered Smith's work online before seeing him perform live. His work is raw, humorous and confronting. People either love it or hate it.
Don't miss the Fashion on Film season at ACMI, which is part of the cultural program of the 2014 Melbourne Spring Fashion Week. Out of the films that I previewed, I really enjoyed the documentary about the art of tailoring. Men of the Cloth is the debut documentary about Italian Master Tailors by Greek-American journalist and producer/director - Vicki Vasilopoulos.
Vanessa de Largie's Very Public Flogging For Wanting Kim Kardashian To Die... Which Wasn't Even True To Begin With - New Matilda
Kim Kardashian's name doesn't make the pages of New Matilda very often. This appearance is even less edifying than the first. Vanessa de Largie takes up the story. On October 11, News Corp's RendezView published a column I wrote about Kim Kardashian West.
I pen articles and books advocating to stop violence against women. Yet, I have a confession to make. When I heard the news that Kim Kardashian West had been gagged and robbed at gunpoint in her private Paris apartment last week, my first thought was: Why couldn't they have killed her?
American drama Spotlight, written and directed by Tom McCarthy ( The Station Agent), conveys the true story of The Boston Globe investigation that caused uproar in one of the world's oldest institutions - the Catholic Church. In 2001, Marty Baron joins The Boston Globe as their gutsy new editor.
ACMI in association with The University of Melbourne and The British Council present Shakespeare on Film from Thursday 14th of July to Tuesday 26th of July 2016. This week, Milk Bar Magazine had the pleasure of sitting down with Dr David McInnis, Lecturer in Shakespeare Studies at The University of Melbourne.
In 2014, a study published in The Lancet Medical Journal found that sexual assault against Australian women by someone who wasn't their partner was more than double the global average. Studies like this can seem meaningless until they affect us personally.
Dear Vanessa, I know you're exhausted. I know you want to scream, give up and throw in the towel. BUT... YOU WILL STAY IN THE RING! I know this year didn't turn out how you expected. And I know that...
Some people become more compassionate when they lose their fixes. Not me. I become more fierce.
My Pop-Capes taught me the art of simplicity -- Vanessa de Largie
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I recently re-read my paperback DON"T HIT ME! I cannot convey how PROUD I am of this book. It's my child. I made beauty out of a horrendous situation.
Please note: I was looking through some old diaries last week, when I found this entry. If you push the subject matter to the side, I think you will find the piece -- poignant.
Death is waiting for me. It's nipping at my heels.
I just spent the night with my late parents
If any animal was to represent my personality -- it would be the ram.
People keep asking me when my next sex blog or article is coming out. The answer: I have no fucking idea!
Vanessa interviews Australian Crime Writer
Dear World, I'm writing to inform you that Prince Charming is dead. I killed him. I never intended to commit a murderous act but I did it for the welfare of womankind and mankind. I did it for my...
Christmas is that time of year that can make the lonely feel lonelier and the poor feel poorer. I know what it's like to spend Christmas Day alone. I also know what it's like to be short on pennies throughout the festive season.
'Order is fake. Chaos is real.' The Joe Manifesto is the creation of award-winning writer/actor/director - Gregory Pakis.
Electric Shorts (part of the Melbourne Fringe Festival) is a short film festival, like no other. This week I spoke to local Melbourne filmmaker and festival director Jim Stamatakos about Electric Shorts 2014.
Do Valentines Day Cards make you vomit in your mouth? Well, guess what? You're not alone!
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