"Nothing wrong with a bit of bum-fun Nessa!"
My friend said, as we sat in a London pub knocking back pints.
It was 2009. A big year for me.
I'd spent a month studying acting in New York with famous film director Mike Nichols.
I'd been a guest at The Razor Reel Film Festival in Belgium.
I'd spent 3 months in London, trying to pick up acting work on The West End.
But bum-fun wasn't something I'd wrapped my arse around.
What is men's obsession with bum-fun?
Do all men want it ?
Does this mean they hate our vaginas?
Many women ask these questions.
This is my personal take on it ...
When I spoke to my friend about the trials and tribulations of anal sex.
I'd only experienced it in 2 ways:
I'd experienced it with an inexperienced boyfriend who thought he could just SHOVE it in.
I'd experienced it during DP (which I enjoyed...because I had other lovely distractions)
But all in all -- I wasn't a fan. (that changed.....!)
Why do boyfriends want my rear when I have a luscious fit cunt?
Apart from the fact that it's taboo, forbidden and tight....
Men like to dominate us ( is this such a bad thing? I quite like it!) :-)
They want to charter our unchartered territory.
It's a primal act. It doesn't lead to babies -- so it's purely sexual.
(Just be thankful that we don't have big ear-holes!)
I will leave you with a comment that I heard in a French doco a few months ago, on sbs.
"A woman will forget the lovers who fucked her vaginally but she will remember the names and addresses of the men who fucked her anally. "
Does a man conquer a woman when she submits to anal sex?
About The Victress
The Victress is a blog primarily dedicated to feminist issues and fierce female sexuality. It is run by Vanessa de Largie.
The Victress may be many things but she is always victorious, valorous and volatile.
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