Every sexually-liberated woman has dealt with the chilled breeze that blows off a prudish woman's icicles. Prudish women are the chief oppressors - they oppress through shaming, judging and labeling women who are different to them. Their attitudes cause their female victims to feel shit about themselves, giving the poisonous prude delusions of grandeur.
I don't have an issue with women who are sexually reserved. I respect their choices. I don't have an issue with women who are prudish due to their faith. I respect their choices. I don't have an issue with women who don't feel the need to express themselves in a sexual manner. I respect their choices. But I do have an issue with prudish women who don't respect mine.
It is a fact that prudish women try to make me feel inferior because I embrace my sexuality. Prudish women are generally self-righteous and like to prance about with 'a holier-than-thou' attitude.
Feminism should be about empowering and supporting women; prudishness is negative and only ever causes division. Female prudes only strengthen our patriarchal society. Until women can do what men do in all areas and without judgment - we will never achieve equality.
The most dangerous element of prudish behavior is that it's often based on assumption. I found this out at age 11. I refer to the incident in one of my published poems titled 'Child Sex-Doll'.
I was an early developer. I had men whistling at me from cars and building sites from the age of eleven. Because of my voluptuousness, adults (mainly women) would assume that I was sexually active when I was just a child; these incorrect assumptions led them to labeling and shaming me. Below is an excerpt from the poem mentioned:
Shaming female adults is bad enough but shaming children and teen-girls is just so hateful. It chips away at their innocence and self-esteem.
I'm a big girl now and I've finally learnt how to deal with these type of women. I don't react by being a bitch. I react by writing an article, a book, a poem or a blog post. I paint a picture, I star in another sex-positive film or photo-shoot. I enjoy the best sex. I choose fun, joy and happiness. I will not be oppressed by other women's disapproval of me.
You see, the best form of revenge is to live courageously, loudly and free. Let them spit spite from their cages because in my lifelong experience, prudish women are cunts!
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The Victress is a blog primarily dedicated to feminist issues and fierce female sexuality. It is run by Vanessa de Largie.
The Victress may be many things but she is always victorious, valorous and volatile.
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