Today is the 28th of July 2019 and I have quit social media forever.
It's the SEXIEST thing I've done this year. Actually, it might be the sexiest thing I'll ever do.
In the past, I've quit social media from nine months to two years and I'm always so much happier. Why did I ever go back?
I don't write for validation. I don't act for validation. I don't paint for validation. I've been creating since I was a little girl -- I hardly need approval from anyone.
One of my favourite New York Times columns is this one about social media usage by the wonderful -- Cal Newport.
I look forward to living my life in the present. I look forward to focusing on real-life relationships. I look forward to creating MEANINGFUL work.
Good riddance social media!
Some great quotes about social media that I found:
"Having lots of “twitter followers” is roughly equivalent to being rich at Monopoly."
"Social media trains us to create and post in a manner that pleases the apps’ algorithm. If a post does really well and followers respond well to a certain kind of image or technique, we begin to form a Pavlovian drive to replicate that response."
"We convince ourselves that we use our phones to fill in occasional idle moments, Perhaps we initially used our phones in this manner, but over time, their role expanded, subtly pushing aside other, more sustaining activities in our lives. Like the once purely social drinker who ends up hiding empty beer cans from his family, all this tapping and swiping has a way of shifting from an occasional distraction to a default behavior. So when you finally remove it, you’re suddenly left with a whole mess of “silence,” just you and your feelings, and an uneasy sense of not knowing what to do next."
“The tycoons of social media have to stop pretending that they’re friendly nerd gods building a better world and admit they’re just tobacco farmers in T-shirts selling an addictive product to children. Because, let’s face it, checking your “likes” is the new smoking.”
― Cal Newport, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World
"Those who can sit in a chair, undistracted for hours, mastering subjects and creating things will rule the world — while the rest of us frantically and futilely try to keep up with texts, tweets and other incessant interruptions'
My name is Vanessa de Largie and I'm the sex-columnist at Maxim Magazine. The Victress is my sex blog. You won't find political correctness or romantic bullshit here.