"Nothing wrong with a bit of bum-fun Nessa!"
My British girlfriend said, as we sat in a London pub knocking back pints. It was 2009. A big year for me.
I'd spent a month studying acting in New York with famous film director Mike Nicholls.
I'd been a guest at The Razor Reel Film Festival in Belgium.
I'd spent 3 months in London, trying to pick up acting work in The West End.
But bum-fun wasn't something I'd wrapped my arse around.
What is men's obsession with bum-fun? Do all men want it ? Does this mean they hate our vaginas?
Many women ask these questions. This is my personal take on it.
When I spoke to my friend about the trials and tribulations of anal sex. I'd only experienced it in 2 ways:
But all in all -- I wasn't a fan initially. ( BUT that changed.....!)
Why do boyfriends want my arse when I have a luscious fit cunt?
Apart from the fact that it's taboo, forbidden and tight....
Men like to dominate us (is this such a bad thing? I quite like it!) :-)
They want to charter our unchartered territory.
It's a primal act. It doesn't lead to babies -- so it's purely sexual.
(Just be thankful that we don't have big ear-holes!)
I will leave you with a comment that I heard in a French doco a few months ago, on sbs.
"A woman will forget the lovers who fucked her vaginally but she will remember the names and addresses of the men who fucked her anally. "
Does a man conquer a woman when she submits to anal sex?
My name is Vanessa de Largie and I'm the sex-columnist at Maxim Magazine. The Victress is my sex blog. You won't find political correctness or romantic bullshit here.