The common blowjob is joyous but the deepthroat blowjob is spectacular.
I'm a deepthroat diva. I've spent many hours on the sausage, breathing through my nose. Below are some tips that I've learnt along the way.
Have him standing whilst you lie on your back with your head hanging off the edge of the bed. This works best for most penises in my experience.
Different penis. Different template:
Every penis is unique in size, shape and sensitivity. So you adjust the template to suit the man. The goal of deepthroat is to get a gag-free pathway -- this means finding the right angle.
Practice makes deepthroat divas:
If you're starting out in deepthroat-land, I advise that you take it really slowly. Deepthroat can make you gag and in some instances it can make you vomit. Don't feel ashamed about the latter, it's normal and common. You're best to start off with smaller-sized penises before tackling super-size. But once you've mastered your craft, you'll be slaying ten-inch beasts in no time.
Deepthroat should be reserved for those special men in your life. Men that respect you. Men that have patience with you. Men that treat you like the Diva that you are. Deepthroat is a five-star experience which is unavailable to misogynist arseholes.
Each to their own but I require ambiance. This is not a porn scene. I need to be turned on. I demand comforts, music, alcohol, the trimmings. No mood. No deepthroat!
I don't use lubrication for deepthroat but many women swear by it. Coconut Oil or flavored lubricants are my suggestion.
A two-way street:
Women often complain that their men don't want to 'dine at the Y'. Oral sex is a two-way street ladies! Like the old adage says -- 'you get what you give'.
I never involve myself in sex-acts that I don't enjoy. I LOVE pleasure and my pleasure matters. Vibrators are a fantastic accessory to oral sex. It takes some serious multi-tasking but if you can pleasure yourself whilst deepthroating him. You are both going to be a beautiful mess by the end of the session.
You need to hold your tongue at the bottom of your mouth to make this work. Once you feel comfortable and your throat is full, you can begin. Controlled breathing comes in handy here otherwise it could end in death by deepthroat.
Signs of a true deepthroat diva is the beautiful messiness of it all. Deepthroat should make your eyes water and your saliva gush. Whenever I indulge in the sport, I have tears streaming down my face and an ocean of my own saliva trying to drown me. It's an art-form. It's part of the process, enjoy it!
Perhaps I should have talked about the grand finale earlier on. You need to work out logistics of his climax before you begin. If your sex-partner is wearing a condom (which in many cases he will be), it's not such a huge issue. But if he is without a rubber, you have to decide where you want him to ejaculate.
Deepthroat tends to make men lose their minds and lose control. So decide the outcome early in proceedings. If you don't feel comfortable with him ejaculating in your throat, you could ask him to ejaculate on your breasts or face. Whatever causes excitement for you.
I hope this blog post has helped somewhat. I wish I'd been more knowledgeable when I began my deepthroat journey many penises ago.
My name is Vanessa de Largie and I'm the sex-columnist at Maxim Magazine. The Victress is my sex blog. It's a space where I can explore my ferocious sexual fantasies - unapologetically.